Be Who You Are

"Often people attempt to live their lives backwards; they try to have more things, or more money, in order to do more of what they want, so they will be happier. The way it actually works is the reverse. You must first be who you really are, then do what you need to do, in [...]

Are You “Should-ing” All Over Your Relationship?

mindylovespanda I am in the middle of reading an amazing book, I Thought it Was Just Me (but it's not): Telling the Truth About Perfectionism, Inadequacy and Power by Brene Brown.  Brene Brown is a researcher who has spent the last 10 years studying women and shame.  In her book, Brene primarily focuses on how [...]

How to Make Your Partner Feel Loved

In my last post we explored how the Golden Rule can actually be harming your relationship because it assumes that your partner wants and appreciates the same things you do. Now, when I share this concept with my clients, most totally get it, and yet have serious difficulties applying this concept to their relationship.   [...]

An Example of Couples Education

In my past post I shared how I feel like my title should actually be Couple's Educator instead of Couple's Counselor.  So this time I thought it might be helpful to share an example of this.  We all know the Golden Rule "do unto others as you would have done unto you," and many of [...]