Why My Clients Make Progress Working With Me

I used to feel like a victim. Like, all. the. time. I’ve always been intuitive, empathetic, compassionate, sensitive. What my family calls “tender-hearted.”  And I call a tender soul. I was born this way. And it made me different from my family.   The more they tried to “toughen me up” and teach me to [...]

Learning to Appreciate…You

I’m a bit of a weeper.  Always have been.   Whenever I'm around real emotion- good, bad, love, anger, you name it- my eyes fill up with tears.  It's part of what makes me...me.   This part of me has been tricky over the years.  And has totally influenced my appreciation and acceptance of myself. [...]

Do You Edit Yourself?

Last week was a big week for me.  A metamorphosis occurred, I’m pretty sure.   See, I’m fast approaching my goal of blogging once a week for a year.  I set this goal 48 (!!!) weeks ago because I wanted to find my voice.   And, when it comes to blog posts, it’s totally worked. [...]

This is Why Self-Care Routines Feel Like Such a Challenge

If you’re anything like me you know in your head that good things come through repetition.   You know, practice.   And yet repetition/routines are so hard to get yourself to do. And even harder to stick to.     Like last week.... It was beautiful totally sunny spring day in Seattle.   I was [...]

Why You Shouldn’t Ask for Help

OK, I started writing a blog post about when to ask for help.   I wanted to remind you how differently things go when we ask for help before we need it. You know,  when we have a plan + support system in place.   But it felt like total BS.   See, I'm working [...]

How to Know if a Coach or Program is Right for You

Lately I’ve had the pleasure of speaking with lots of potential new clients.   I love this part of the job!   But, there’s one aspect of these calls that often breaks my heart: shame.   Often disguised as fear.   Shame is something we feel on the inside that tells us we’re not good [...]

How to Know What You Need Next

During my therapy session last week both my therapist + myself were in stitches when this sentence flew out of my mouth:   “Oooooooh, It’s just shame.  Sweet!”   We’d been exploring why a supposed to be fun assignment (spending virtual money) was making me feel so darn yucky.     We sat with it. [...]

Are Your Wants Keeping You Stuck?

My wants and I have been going through a major growing phase lately.  Major. I used to do this thing where I put all my wants into the same category.  Maybe you can relate? If I thought it, I called it a want. Didn’t matter if it was to marry Johnny Depp, attend grad school, swim in [...]

6 Signs Your Soul is Craving Solitude

Have you ever noticed that something magical seems to happen every year about this time?   We head into hibernation mode.   Big time. It’s like our souls- as a collective- are craving solitude.  And they’re not shy about demanding asking for it.I know it’s happening to me.   And, it seems to be happening to everyone [...]

How to Change Your Life

This December I’m feeling extra nostalgic about saying goodbye to another year.2014 has been one of the hardest AND most amazing years of my life.  They often go that way, no?   The hardest things- that you’d never want to go through again- are also the things that you’re most grateful for.     Totally sums up 2014 for [...]